The First Step To Preventing Premature Ejaculation

I guess we've all thought how great it would be to prevent premature ejaculation from arising during sex. I'm sure you've been there; engrossed by sexual pleasure and lost in the moment and all of a sudden you feel your arousal rising rapidly out of control, panic ensues and you find yourself trying anything to last longer but the inevitable happens: You try to carry on after ejaculation but it feels too uncomfortable and you're going limp, DAMN.

You can see your lovers now unhappy because all she wanted was YOU to thrust inside until she reached blissful orgasm but you weren't able to hold out for her.

But there's no need to feel down because, as alone as you may feel now, you are just one of millions of men who faulter on a daily basis with this issue. I know knowing this doesnt actually help you, but I wanted you to know that ejaculating before your lover reaches orgasm is quite normal, and in 99% of cases completely not caused by physical defects or ailments in any way. And this is a good thing because if there's nothing wrong with you then the reason you have premature ejaculaiton is fixable…..

So How Do You Prevent It?

Well here's my personal view on the subject. I'll start with a question, Have you ever fixed a car? Well have you?? What about a:

Toaster?

Leaky Roof?

Broken hinge?

Flat tyre (oops, thats a car again isnt it)?

Well what does this have to do with increasing how long you last in bed? Because just like any docter, you had to do one thing before you undertook these tasks that would otherwise prevent you from fixing them. You had to find out 'What is wrong with them', in other words 'Diagnosis'.

So learn and understand why you have this problem before you start buying all kinds of stuff to help cure this, and then becoming disheartened by lack of results, because they didn't do the job for you. I've seen this happen many a time.

What Causes Premature Ejaculation?

A lack of 'control' is what we are talking about, because that's exactly what premature ejaculation is. And this lack of control essentially is due to two things only:

A lack of conditioning of your body and mind. But this lack of conditioning of isn't your fault for a few main reasons: You were never told how or why to condition your mind or body, unfortunately our body didn't come with a 'maintainanence' and 'best practices' manual (if only) so we have to discover things for ourselves or rely on others, and we all know how well relying on others normally turns out, especially on the internet, you get 1000 ideas from 1000 different 'experts'. I've quite a collection of books at home on this subject and have been astounded by what some so called 'experts' have written about lasting in bed (rant over).

(I know that was a bit brief so I'm going to write a more detailed post in the near future about 'what causes premature ejaculation' and I'll link to it here.)

What Will Conditioning Do For You?

Currently your body is releasing your ejaculation early. Why does it do this? Because sexual sensation is winding your body into gear and getting it ready to ejaculate. And it's doing this to impregnate your lover. So as far as your body is concerned delivering sperm is it's goal and successful delivery it's only agenda. It is not concerned how quickly it releases your sperm. In fact the sooner your ejaculate is impregnated in your lover the better. So delivering sperm before she reaches orgasm ensures that she isn't going to get fedup and force you off her. (I'm talking about primal instincts here, insticts we still have with us from our less civilised ancient hunter gathera days)

But we no longer live in caves because our evolution and discovery in all areas of our life have changed, living standards, government, society, and so have our understanding of what sex can be. Sex can be a far greater experience for everyone and for YOU, but you have to let your body know that times have changed. So conditioning is about one thing only: 'Taking Control' of your body, from your body.

I think sometimes our body just turns back to it's defualt 'I've just got to deliver semen' setting due to enviromental factors affecting you (I'll save these for a different article) and this is a reason men who never had this problem before are suddenly stricken. So 'Taking Control' is your answer to preventing your lack of control from continuing long into your future.

So How Do You Start Premature Ejaculation Prevention?

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