10. Why Is It Easier To Last While Masturbating Than With Your Partner?

Let’s deal with the obvious first. Masturbation is controlled by you and therefore you don’t have the added stress and anxiety of having to please your partner. Stress and anxiety are huge causes of premature ejaculation.

While masturbating you are not intoxicated by the lustful desire created by the sight, smell and feel of her body, which drive your libido sky high making it virtually impossible to last.

Without your partner it’s easy to go at your own pace, giving you more control over when you cum. Stopping during sex is probably the last thing you want to do as this may put your partner off and also make you feel like your not able to provide the constant stimulation she requires. So during sex it’s not as easy to slow down or stop to regain control as you don’t want to upset your partner.

This is one of the reasons I added a section to my e-book entitled “Sexual Technique”. Within this chapter I reveal love making techniques that don’t over-sensitize the penis but ensure your lover still receives full stimulation so you can continue to make love for far longer. Don’t underestimate the piece of mind that comes from knowing these techniques. It’s like having as ace up your sleeve. Something this simple can completely eliminate sexual anxiety as you’ll always know you can fall back on this when you need it. And I’m sure you know that sexual anxiety is one of the biggest causes of p.e. as it inhibits performance.

While talking about ‘sexual technique’ I though you might be interested in the following information…

Did you know that the vagina swells near the cervix (the deepest part) during sex? So by staying deep within your lover using short thrusts you are automatically more likely to last longer. This occurs because the head of your penis is its most sensitive part and if it stays nearer the cervix it receives less friction and therefore you will become less aroused and able to last longer.

That’s the obvious over and done with, now onto something I don’t think you’ll know…

I teach sensory type exercises within my book which help men learn to naturally lengthen their lasting time. I teach exercises for couples and for single men. But although the exercise for single men can teach them to train their ejaculatory reflex and greatly extend their lasting time it can still all go horribly wrong during sex.

The reason could be for some of the reasons above but is more likely to be because self stimulation provides a completely different kind of sensation to penetrative sex.

Basically the vagina provides constant stimulation to the entire penis, constantly encapsulation it in sensation. During self stimulation you cannot recreate the constant contact that is created by the vagina. View this in your mind and you will see it is virtually impossible for your hand to encompass every area of your member for all of the time, which drastically reduces the available sensation to practice lasting with. Effectively during sex you are then overwhelmed by sensation levels you are not used to and therefore lose control.

But if your single or want to practice learning to last on your own the question begs how can you if you cannot recreate this level of stimulation on your own? I do have the answer but only reveal this in my e-book. If you would like a copy of my e-book please click here.

I hope you found all this information interesting and now have a better insight on curing p.e.

All the best

Paul Lain (author of "Cure Premature Ejaculation")